Anger Management lesion in Garhwali Proverb

 (A Research Review on Garhwali-Kumaoni –Haridwar Folk Literature) 

Management Lessons in Garhwali –Kumaoni Folk Literature part -2

                                      Bhishma Kukreti

                     It is true that folk literature is very rarely discussed, analyzed from management point of view.

                   Over all proverbs are the least discussed in the folk literature. Richard C. Trench (1861) remarked that Lord Bacon stated that ‘THE genius, wit, and spirit of a nation are discovered in its proverbs’.

               This author is of opinion that proverbs are the major source of teaching management lesion to children without any formal teaching in any platform as schools.

              According to famous Garhwali proverbs collectors Pushkar Singh Kandari there are more than thirteen thousands proverbs in Garhwali language. These more than thirteen thousand s proverbs definitely show that Garhwal-Kumaon and Haridwar society has been aware about carrying teaching management lesions from one generation to other generation.

          Anger Management Lesson in Garhwali Proverb

 There are tens of Garhwali-Kumaoni-Haridwar proverbs for telling people to manage their emotions.

One such Garhwali Proverb is

गाळि देकि लौड़ गौड़ नि मर्दन अर तातु पाणिन कूड़ नि फुकेंदन 

Gali deki laud gaud ni mardan ar taatu panin kood ni fukendan

The literal meaning of the above proverb is

Nobody (your children or cattle) dies by bad words and the house is not burnt by hot boiling water.

              Anger management is one Key to success

             The anger sentiment is a natural emotion of human beings. Definitely anger has to be managed by all means. First of all, we should understand that bad words from other do not mean you also react in the same manners.

                                    Anger Management Advices

1-You should not react immediately- Instead of reacting on sharp comments from others you should just divert for awhile. Philosophers and psychologist suggest to count up to ten case of you are feeling anger.

2-Take a time out-When you get sharp or unbearable comments from somebody you should buy time for reacting on the comments

3- Show your anger only when you are calm and you are in commanding position to manage your emotions

4- Think before commenting – The best way to manage adverse emotion is to think before speaking

5- Have solutions before reacting – Before you react you should have solution for the cause of remarks from other side.

6-Don’t blame directly – In anger management, the best way is not to blame other directly but indirectly.

7- Don’t show hate or complaint – After getting adverse words from other don’t hold grudge, don’t hate or don’t show complaints. Instead show forgiveness

8-Have relaxed mood – You should know to relax in such situation

9-Practice to avoid anger

10-Use humorous words (not teasing sarcastic words) in reacting

11-Be aware about anger – You should know your body and mental situation at the time of anger.

  The above Garhwali proverb is one of the finest teachings for anger management.

  

Copyright @ Bhishma Kukreti bckukreti@gmail.com  22/11/2013

     Notes on   Management Lessons in Garhwali –Kumaoni –Haridwar Folk Literature to be continued in part -3

Research Review of Garhwali-Kumaoni Literature to be continued….

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