Kava Kakdana Raundan ar Dhakari Chalana Raundan: A Garhwali Proverb Teaching Dealing Criticism Assertively

(A Research Review on Garhwali, Kumaoni, Hardwar Folk Literature)

                               

              Successful Management Lessons in Garhwali-Kumaoni Folk Proverbs -10

                Management Lessons in Garhwali –Kumaoni Folk Literature part -27 

             By: Bhishma Kukreti (Yogic Ways of Marketing Management Expert) 

          The literal meaning of Garhwali proverb ‘Kava Kakdana Raundan ar Dhakari Chalana Raundan’ is that the crows cry and the travels keep on going.

          The real meaning is that man should take criticism assertively or energetically and positively.

   All of us get criticism at some point of time.

                  Types of Criticism

 There are mainly two types of criticism

A Constructive Criticism

B- Destructive Criticism

            Non Assertive Ways of Taking criticism

1-Becoming Confused

2-Becoming Defensive

3-Acting ridiculous

4-Retaliating with anger and blaming the critics

5-Shutting down

6-Ignoring but hurting inside

7-Internalizing anger and stewing over

8-Withdrawing

9-Running away

              Passive way of taking Criticism

In passive way of taking criticism means confused, running away or hurting our self.

               Aggressive Way of Taking Criticism

In aggression way of taking criticism ends with conflicts, depression and low esteem.

        Assertive ways of Dealing with Constructive Criticism

  

1-Accepting the criticism

2-Negative Assertion

3-Negative Inquiries

Assertive ways of Dealing with Destructive Criticism

1-Disagree with Criticism

2-Negative Enquiry

3-Defusng difficult situation (a-agreeing in part, b-agreeing in probability and c-agree in principal)

 Other features to Taking Criticism

1-Responding to the words and not the tone

2-Not to respond immediately

3-Not to react immediately

4-Ask question to yourself

5-Ask question again to critic

6- Decide about the type of criticism

Copyright @ Bhishma Kukreti bckukreti@gmail.com  14/12/2013

     Notes on   Management Lessons in Garhwali –Kumaoni –Haridwar Folk Literature to be continued….

Management Lessons in Garhwali-Kumaon Folktales, Folk Stories, traditional Narratives, Community stories to be continued …

Research Review of Garhwali-Kumaoni Literature to be continued….

                  References

1-Bhishma Kukreti, 1984, Garhwal Ki Lok Kathayen, Binsar Prakashan, Lodhi Colony, Delhi 110003

2-Anil Dabral, 2007, Garhwali Gadya Parampara,

3- Bhishma Kukreti, 2003, Salan Biten Lok Kathayen, Rant Raibar, Dehradun

4- Bhishma Kukreti, October 2007, Gadhwali Lok kathaon ma Prabandh Shastra ki suchna, Chitthi Patrika (Lok Ktha Visheshank), Dehradun

5-This article is based on ideas of Dr. Fiona Michel and Dr. Anthea Fursland

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