Issues in Uttarakhand -2

Working Couples in Hilly Uttarakhand
Bhishma kukreti

Working couples means that wife and husbands both holding paid jobs . Rural Uttarakhand have been witnessing this new community for last one and half decades. This new phenomena should be subject of many discussions but rarely the median provides much attention on this vital issue of future community.
Working couples, in hilly Uttarakhand are subjects to many hampers, confines, constrains and along with conflicting situations for dealing new challenges they are facing. Some constrains and conflicts are transitory but some are to be dealt on daily basis for ever by working couples I hilly Uttarakhand .
Now a days, boys of hilly Uttarakhand also very much inclined that they get working marriage partners . This emerging new phenomenon in hilly Uttarakhand is creating various new situations which were never been there for centuries and the community is experiencing to deal such fresh circumstances.
The first constrain for the couples, those who are married but where one partner is without job, is to find job and that job should match with the job’s of one partner that both don’t entangle in much adverseness.
The parents of grooms of such working couples are not experienced dealing with working bahu or daughter in laws and the this compulsive new phenomenon is creating a different types of conflicts among family members. The experiencing and new adjust-mental culture of and by the working couples within family is the only solution for dealing such new situations within the family and society.
Handling many hidden or open unconventional asymmetries by the couples, family members, relatives, community within the same society and communities of couples in working places is the main problem , difficulty , trouble, crisis, dilemma, quandary or predicament . Again , new experiences by all , is the only teaching solutions for such problems.
It is observed that mostly , the partners are not getting jobs in the same village or small township of hilly Uttarakhand .This phenomenon of working in separate places creating many stumbling blocks for working couples of hilly Uttarakhand .
When the couples do not get jobs in the same place, there are three establishments within family- parent’s establishment, two separate establishments of couple. The fourth establishment also become necessary when the children are sent to a city or metro for higher education. Too many establishments are always a painstaking occurrence for any average human beings.
By having more than one establishment, there are chances of hassles on the partners and may create many adverse events.
Parenting by working couples in rural Uttarakhand is the biggest hassle, aggravation, exasperation for working couples and to all who are related to working couples.
Choosing child care is again part of parenting problem. Kids become the most sufferer in the home where parents are working .the kid’s suffering become more aggravated when the parents are working at different places and one parent cant meet the kids on daily basis. The situation worsens more when the kids dot have neither caring of both parents and grand parents too.
Schooling and higher education for the children of working couples of hilly areas of Uttarakhand is becoming the problem of society as whole and each members of community is struggling for the finer solutions for tackling the nrew emerging trends in Garhwal and Kumaon.
The old and contemporary norms are also breaking because of new pattern of working couples in hilly Uttarakhand and the society which is not habitual of experiencing such new changes put different pressure on working couples . If the adjustment period for dealing such newer and newer situation lingers the working couples and their family members may face many dilemmas .
The conflicting situations arisen by the ambitions for own professional progress is same as found in cities and metros too. When careers collide , there are conflicts between the couple and same phenomenon are being observed in hilly Uttarakhand as being experienced in cities or metros, It is still a common saying in hilly Uttarakhand too, “ A successful wife is all very nice in theory, as long as she's still constantly available at home.”
There are news that the divorce case among rural Uttarakhandis are also in increase. This situation is also because of increase in working couples in hilly Uttarakhand. Most of the problems of divorce occurrences are same of cities but there are some hidden problems in hilly Uttarakhand which are still to come on the surface. The society has to gear to digest this appalling, dire and unpleasant situation and the Uttarakhandi society should first has to be ready to face the new trend and then find solutions for the emerging trends of divorces and new ways of remarrying should be accepted as part and partial of our life.
The society, individuals, family members should be more sensitive and tolerable in finding the solutions if the working couples face the problems. The media of Uttarakhand should be more responsive in publishing articles or write ups related to working couples in hilly Uttarakhand

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